The other Yvonne-disease I have been working on is what I expect from others. I have had this issue all of my life, in my professional and personal life. I am let down when others don't function as I would. It is the recipe for much disappointment. You see.... I am not very trusting of others. When I have befriended someone and therefore given them my trust it is important to me. What I came to realize is not everyone knows that about me. The bigger issue? If I do not lay out my expectations in any relationship I am simply setting the other person up to fail.
Last year I met a person that functions like me. She is the type of friend that would give you the shirt off of her back, but she also doesn't let anyone walk all over her. Our friendship started with her and I exchanging words regarding drama that happened in the circle we both were in. I told her how I felt and she responded to it in the most positive manner I have ever heard or seen. An immediate trust was built because I realized right then that she wasn't blowing smoke or singing about butterflies and rainbows to keep the peace. An instant respect was felt. (Lisa, I hope you know this is you)
Finally, I have been working on my anxiety and how I deal with it. Since I have moved into my own home I have been sleeping really well. I truly believe that is helpful to my flustered emotions. I have also been feeding my children an myself better. Everyone knows that this always has a positive effect on your body. The biggest change is my ability to be open with my children. They are intelligent and have questions. I feel incredibly blessed that we have the type of relationship where they know they can ask me and know I will be honest.
All in all I feel like I have made some very positive steps in these first couple of weeks of separation. I may not always feel as strong as I appear, but I am giving it all I have.
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