Support Someone

I fought it for years.  I remember telling myself over and over that I could do it on my own.  I even remember hearing about others doing it and thinking they could of tried harder on their own.  I truly thought it was all about will power.  There was no way that there were outside influences that created the issue.  I have learned how very wrong I was.

I literally tried for years.  I was able to lose some weight on my own by doing what I love...zumba.  It is easily my drug of choice.  Even when I was eating right and going to zumba four times a week; I quickly hit a plateau.  This plateau was no where close to the weight I wanted to be.

I should make one thing very clear.  I have never and still do not want to be "skinny", I want to be healthy.  The final straw for me was realizing how active I am and realizing I should not be this big with my lifestyle.  I want to enjoy life, live long, watch my children and (some day) grand children grow up.

It took some courage, but I decided that I would bring up the conversation with my husband.  I was scared to do so.  I have never really had any support in this area of my life.  The response I received was beyond supportive.  My husband was on board and for all the right reasons - not because he wanted me smaller or thought any less of me but because he truly saw and understood what I was feeling.  I could never of asked for a stronger supporter or better response.

So, three months ago I had gastric bypass surgery and I would like to share my experience, so far, with you.  There are ups, downs, tears, laughter and much more.  Please take what you can from my story.  At minimum, see enough to support someone else in the same situation.

Ethics...anyone?

Lack of ethics is one of the worst things I have ran across in my life.  Unfortunately, I have found a lot of it surrounding me since our move to Texas.  People doing what is best for their pocket book, not their client, their friend, their family or even their own business.  Has anyone ever heard of Karma or long term effect of such behavior?

I am not sure when I became so sensitive.  I have been told that I give 100% and that is why when someone does something so negative towards me it has a crucial effect on my heart and soul.  I tend to think that when you mess with my hard earned money that feeds and cares for my children; that is when I get angry.  Unfortunately, I am not angry - I am severely hurt.

One man took $1,000 and now the woman that saw me go through that very hell has chosen to take $2,000 from me.  I do not care if I had millions of dollars; I earned that money by working harder, smarter and faster than the others.  The clients involved have gotten their product, the individuals have received their payments, yet my pocket is empty.  You're welcome?

I feel punished, slighted and certainly discounted.  I was also accused of sending my blog to one of these individuals clients.  No, I didn't.  My blog is, however, available to the public and some of those clients may already be linked to me on social media.  You see, I build relationships with people.  I do not just charge them for undocumented time and forget they are out there.

I wish I was able to be as unethical as they are, but I would never be able to look myself in the mirror.  And, most recently, I like looking at myself...more so than before.  I want those clients to know more about the individuals they are trusting with their financial and company information.  If I were the only example of either of them cheating someone I believe it would be less bothersome,  That is not the case for either individual.

I have decided, on pure principle, that I will not let them cheat me.  Maybe this will keep them from doing it to someone else in the future.